the mobber

a mobber is like that:

• is often like a child who has never grown up
• exhibits immature behaviour and poor manners
•  has a short-term focus and often cannot think or plan ahead more than 24 hours
• appears to have a short, selective memory and often cannot or will not remember what they said, did, or committed to more than 24 hours ago - but is always able to remember your faults, often from years ago
• the serial bully seems to live in a bubble of the present and when challenged will spontaneously make things up; the bully genuinely seems to believe the fabrication; from a psychiatric viewpoint this could be called confabulation; from a moral viewpoint, it's called lying
• has poor language skills, and uses almost exclusively negative language with few or no positive words; is often limited to parroting fad phrases and regurgitating the latest management jargon
• extrovert bullies tend to be shouters and screamers, are highly visible, and bully from the front
• extrovert bullies can be charismatic and seem to be able to bewitch people into following and supporting them
• is unimaginative and lacks the skills of creativity and innovation
• rarely has any ideas of his or her own; tends to regurgitate what others (especially superiors) say rather than use own thinking
• is a plagiarist, steals other people's work - and the credit for it
• has a writing style that is disjointed, lacks flow and consistency, tends to make contradictory statements, and has the feel of a young teenager trying to write like a grown-up (apologies to teenagers)
• is unable to assess the importance of events and tasks, often making an unnecessary fuss over trivia whilst ignoring important or urgent things
• has unpredictable mood swings, blows hot and cold, often suddenly and without warning
• is inconsistent in their judgement, often overruling, ignoring or denying what they said previously
• has no listening skills, ignores and overrules you; it can be like talking to a brick wall
• displays inappropriate and hostile body language
• often displays interpersonal behavior that is ill-advised, especially with a sexual overtone, eg invasion of intimate zone, gestures or comments which include inappropriate sexual references or innuendo, being inappropriately intimate with clients, being too friendly too soon, etc

Ce ne tine aici ?

ma macina demult intrebarea: unde mi-e locul ?

si recunosc cinstit ca din ce in ce mai des ma intreb daca in Romania, si daca da, in Bucuresti?
Si daca nu in Romania unde ? Anul asta mi-am mai conturat un fel de harta a ''locuintelor'' mele posibile sau ideale, dar acest subiect e mai potrivit pentru un nou post.

am gasit azi un blog nou al unei femei de care credeam ca nu-mi place, dar azi mi-a placut ceva scris de de ea:

''Din pacate, dincolo de glume si de nedumeriri retorice, nicio plecare nu e atat de simpla pe cat ne-am dori. Ne-am intors, rumegand in gand intrebarea: ce ne tine, totusi, in tara asta? In afara de teama de a fi veneticii altora, pe care ne-am putea-o invinge, asa cum ne invingem zi de zi teama de a fi batjocura propriilor nostri guvernanti, ce Dumnezeu ne leaga, cu radacini de foc si de lacrimi, de bucata asta de lume amara?''


iata si link la postul complet, e important pt acolo sint si fotografii. Datorita fotografiilor mi-am dat seama ca e fericita, ca e indragostita, ca a mai facut un copil (al treilea), si ca acel copil e fructul dragostei pentru acel barbat (curajos roman... dac-o fi roman). Si poate de asta mi-a placut un pic de ea, pt am simtit-o fericita. Am mai citit chestii scrise de ea, dar probabil ca atunci era foarte nefericita, cred ca se despartise de curind de tatal primilor ei 2 copii

http://alice.revistatango.ro/2010/09/ce-ne-tine-aici/


LATER EDIT:

si iata inca un post numit ''Chirias in Romania'' a altei persoane publice pe care o citesc frecvent:


http://tudorchirila.blogspot.com/2010/09/chirias-in-romania.html

Concluzie?

Johari window: pick 6 to describe yourself

able accepting adaptable bold brave calm caring cheerful clever complex confident

dependable dignified energetic extroverted friendly giving happy helpful idealistic independent ingenious

intelligent introverted kind knowledgeable logical loving mature modest nervous observant organized

patient powerful proud quiet reflective relaxed religious responsive searching self-assertive self-conscious

sensible sentimental shy silly smart spontaneous sympathetic tense trustworthy warm wise witty